Wedding Myths

  1. It’s “Bad Luck” for the Groom to see the Bride before the wedding: This dates back to pre-arranged marriages when bride and groom didn’t even MEET before the wedding. Lots of couples are opting out of this tradition and taking advantage of “first look” photos, a rising trend in modern day weddings.  This gives the photographer a better chance to capture that “magical moment” when the couple sees each other for the first time in their wedding ensemble. It can also give family and close friends an intimate moment with the couple and more chances for a photo ops, thus saving time between the ceremony and the reception. If you feel strongly about seeing each other before the wedding, it’s you decision; but, don’t be afraid to break the mold of traditional wedding rules and celebrate the magic and romance of that “first look.”
  2. Bouquet and Garter Tossing Is A Deal-Breaker At The Reception: This is a time-honored tradition that supposedly reveals the “next to be married.”  Not all couples want the frenzy of single friends fighting over the wedding bouquet and garter. Nor do most brides want the groom displaying her bare thigh for all to see while he removes the garter and then tosses it to one of his drunken buddies.  Many couples have been simply handing the bouquet to a cherished friend or loved one, or even the couple that has been married the longest as a sweet sentiment of love and remembrance.
  3. The Bride “Simply” MUST Be Escorted Down The Aisle:  Not everyone has the “special someone” in their life to walk them down the aisle.  That’s okay, if you want to fly solo.  It’s YOUR day and YOUR moment to shine.  Let all eyes be only on you.  And besides, if you have a puffy dress and narrow aisle, it might be best for yout to go it alone.
  4. The Bridal Party Must Be Evenly Matched!  Really?  Your bridal party should consist of the people who mean the most to you: your closest friends, coworkers and family; not a mob scene of everyone you know.  And, who cares if one of you has more on their “side” of the bridal party?  There are some couples that even opt out of having a bridal party altogether.  This keeps the focus solely on them and saves a lot of headaches, drama, arguments over both minor and major details, and let’s face it, money.  The number of people in the bridal party is up to the bride and groom.   Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
  5. You HAVE To Invite Every Child Of Every Guest!  This is simply not true.  Weddings are mainly an adult occasion.  If there aren’t children in your wedding party (be it your own or your friends/family’s offspring), it is totally acceptable to forego inviting children of guests.  Of course, someone may get offended, but let’s get real, someone will ALWAYS be offended about SOMETHING, but don’t let this stop you from having the wedding you desire.  Just make this fact clear on the “save the date” and the formal invitations so that guests don’t automatically assume their offspring will be in attendance and so they can make advance preparations for their child's care for the big day.
  6. Hiring Your Friends is a “Great” Idea:  One of your friends may offer to officiate the ceremony.  This may SOUND like an awesome idea, but many couples regret making this decision.  Not all states even ALLOW this, so check if this is something you really want.  Also hiring your college roommate as the DJ may actually turn out to be a disaster. Save yourself the drama and hire professionals.  Let your friends and family attend as guests and enjoy the day.  So, go ahead, toss the tradition and REALLY take control of your weddings.  Don’t worry about offending anyone.  It’s YOUR wedding, YOUR reception, YOUR day and YOUR marriage!  Make it everything you’d hoped it would be…and more!  |  email us
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