Television and movies have depicted the difficult role of stepparenting with stories ranging from the idealization of the Brady Bunch to condemning the wickedness of Cinderella’s stepmother. In reality, most remarriages in which children are involved engender feelings which may swing from intense conflict to abject denial.

Second marriages have a better chance for success when both parents have taken time to work through the emotional issues of divorce, a task that can take much longer than the legal process of terminating a union. Even then, it usually takes at least two years to stabilize a blended family.

One of the most unrealistic expectations of remarried partners is that each must love the other’s children as much as their own. Many stepparents find the well-being of the newly formed unit enhanced by discussing their concerns with a coach or counselor.  |  email us
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